A messy week away with four kids, and the quiet realization that the mess didn't have to mean anything was wrong with me.
Tag: presence
Knowing Better Doesn’t Mean Getting It Right Every Time: The Gap Between Awareness and Action
Knowing what to do doesn't guarantee we'll do it. A reflection on the gap between awareness and action — and why growth may not be what we assume.
The Moment Before the Anger: Where the Boundary Was Needed All Along
We notice the anger because it's loud. The decisions that preceded it were almost silent. A reflection on capacity, the quiet yeses, and the boundary that was needed several decisions before the reaction ever arrived.
Self-Trust: Why We Keep Justifying Our Own Decisions
There is a place near the ocean where I put down everything I have been carrying — the unfinished work, the decisions, the quiet internal defence I keep rehearsing. What I find there is enough space to hear what I already know.
Arguing With the Day – Impatience and Acceptance
Nothing went smoothly all day — disappeared files, a wrong turn, keys in the recycling bin — and then I sat in Friday traffic on a drive I had chosen, arguing with its conditions. A reflection on impatience, acceptance, and patience as a capacity that expands and contracts rather than a trait we either have or lack.
How We Drift From Ourselves Under Pressure
We don't leave ourselves all at once. We drift — one pressured decision at a time — until a feeling quietly becomes the whole story of who we are. This week on Reflections, a quiet drive through Vermont and what it reminded me about coming home to myself. The question I came back with: who is the version of yourself you've stopped visiting?
A Feeling Is Not an Identity
A good day. An unexplained sadness. And the moment a feeling almost became an identity — until it didn't.
The Lighthouse Got Vetoed: What We Get Wrong About Presence and Performance
Corporate coaching has a look. My lighthouse didn't fit it. But what got vetoed from my website turned out to be the most accurate metaphor I have for what high performers actually get wrong about presence and performance.
Find Inspiration in Moments of Pause
In our fast-paced world, stillness offers profound insights. Moments of reflection, like sipping tea or a quiet morning, reveal our inner guidance. Simple practices, such as a one-question check-in or a three-minute pause, foster self-awareness and clarity. Embrace stillness to uncover inspiration and embrace your true self.
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